Love Never Subtracts. It Multiplies.

I love a great many people. Truly love them. This often gets misunderstood in our society.

I have a husband who I love. I have children who I love. And I have friends who I love. When I make new friends and connections I love them too. Because of my ‘pool’ of love the depth is the same across the board because it’s coming from the same place within me.

In loving others it does not subtract from the love I feel in my other relationships. I think that most people miss this. Society thinks it should be contained. That when you make new connections and show deep love and care to those not in your immediate circle somehow lessens that love. It is simply not true.

We have been trained to believe that if you show others that deep love it must be because something is lacking in our immediate relationship. Because if you were truly fulfilled in your current relationships you wouldn’t need to look elsewhere.

This is total malarkey. At least for me. I’m not extending love out because of a lack of it. I extend it out too multiply it. To share it. To add to it.

My children used to ask “who do you love more? Do you have a favorite?” I would tell them “I love you equally in intensity and depth, however the things I love about you are different and unique to each of you. There is no favorite because you are not the same. You have different strengths and weaknesses. I do not love you solely because you are my children. I love you for the unique individuals you are. There is no way to compare such a thing. Just like you love your father and I in different ways for different reasons but the depth of the love is the same.”

When you have one child and then have another, the second one does not subtract from the love you feel for the first one. No matter how many more you have it does not subtract from the ones before. It adds.

The same for anyone you choose to love. Love is not possessive. It is not demanding.

Love is simple. It is us who complicate it by trying to define and control it in others.

I truly love everyone of my friends. Regardless of their station, skin color, or gender.
All of our hearts are red.